I have a viewpoint on sex that often unnerves the more sexually repressed individuals of my world. It is a point of view which has evolved as I grew up being taught I would burn in hell if I ever partook in such evilness as sexual intercourse... Unless, of course, I was married.
Although, I believe it is truly beautiful that people CHOOSE to see themselves as sacred and worthy of preserving, so long as THEY CHOOSE. It's the ones who feel forced into young marriage and often divorce because of passed on beliefs which literally stress their minds and bodies to the brink that have me concerned.
So I don't get into too much trouble I will speak only of my own experience, and perhaps, in its unfortunate likeness to many other cases, light will be shown on the true cause of the sexual deviancy and depravity that erodes our world.
"What is suppressed will be expressed."
I was daughter to a pastor and grew up being told how evil sex is. I also managed to get my first adult toy at age 11. I was not allowed to even hold a boy's hand during prayer time. I also had dark fantasies about these boys from as early as 8 years old. I was raised with families who would gather together outside of a place called 'Teen Scene' (a sexual safety and education facility for teens) holding signs and screaming their protests shaming anyone who entered or exited the building. I also decided to take my own virginity when I was twelve because I got in my head that I didn't want any one person to think they took it from me. (Still haven't worked that one out? ...uhm, shrink?)
Do you see a pattern here?
I like to refer to sex in regards to human biology and if you know my writing at all you know I love a good analogy. So here goes...
We are predisposed, biologically wired to require sex. We are also predisposed and biologically wired to require food and drink and sleep (among other things). Let's just imagine for a moment that it wasn't sex that was 'bad' but sleep. Sleep is the most evil thing on the planet, thou shalt not sleep until thou art married. Okay?
So having that in your mind, also remember that people tend not to make the correlation between depravity and sexual repression. Do you think 'they' would make the connection between no sleep and delirium? Would they notice murders and madness the world over and perhaps think something should be done for the safety of our planet. Delirium can make you do insane things, very dangerous things... Why? Because your body is reacting. Your biology is demanding your attention to this area of need. It's brilliant, our brain, the ability to use all means necessary to get our attention when needed.
So, it's my belief (and due to research in the world of psychology I didn't pioneer the thought) that the more sexually repressed a collective is the more dangerous that society can become.
We NEED to talk about sex.
We need to think of it as we do 'sleeping'. We don't think it's evil to talk about sleeping in front of a child and we do a disservice to the children of our world when we do not educate them about their sexuality as they grow into it. I understand introducing it sensitively, but I, to this day, have not been given the "sex talk" from my parents...!?!? (I definitely don't want it at this point. Lol.)
Hats off to the parents who create such an environment for their children that there are no taboo subjects, where learning is embraced and encouraged. And to the parents who would shame their children thinking with such naïveté that that will actually prevent them from doing as they wish to do, are, in my opinion, adding to the depravity of our society.
Sex is taboo because we made it taboo. Belief systems, when they are collectively believed in, are very powerful and can be very dangerous things. Because we are very powerful beings. We are made up of energy, millions upon millions of itty bitty sub-atomic particles. When we so choose, we put physical energy into thought systems therefore adding to the belief's power source. If we remove our belief we regain our power, that energy we had given away becomes ours once more.
"Be responsible for your energy."
If there is a possibility that your energy is invested in something that may hurt you or the planet... challenge yourself. Make sure you really want your power going to these places and always ask yourself, "Am I giving away my power because I want to, because this is a belief with which I agree or am I allowing my energy to be consumed because someone or society told me that I should?" If it's the latter you can begin, at any moment, freeing yourself from the belief by reminding yourself that you are in control of your reality.
Regain your power. Be the change. Invest your energy only in that which reminds you of your inner joy; only in that which brings you tranquility and peace.
It is easy to feel attacked when someone does not share your beliefs. This piece is not meant to be an attack rather, a difference of opinion and there is no judgment from me to you. I am regaining my power from times when I judged because I thought I was supposed to. I'm not perfect, but I know practice makes the master. And, I'm practicing every day to give myself the freedom to express my views, subject them to the world's judgment and to be accepting and okay if they disagree with me.
I hope this finds you happy and healthy and know it only comes from love.