"To thine own self be true." - William ShakespeareRead More
It is truly remarkable how society has perpetuated its trickery for thousands of years. Constantly patting you on the back for monetary gain and slapping you in the face if "oh, you're NOT going to college?"
Do we ever stop and look at what we think success is? Forbes makes poster children out of those who make millions; billions and the rest are left to dream "what if".
This is bloody preposterous.
As having been a member of both poverty and now decent wealth (I won't be on Forbes anytime soon, but y'know) I can truly see both sides.
People and media and society and my culture and even members of my extended family made me feel (because they were made to feel) that I would never be anything until I achieved something. And that 'something' was eluded to as being monetary, material gain.
What an insane assertion!!!!
Now that I'm on the "other side", people congratulate me for all my 'success' while they pat my shoulder and look beyond me to the "more successful" person in the room.
It's lies. Lies, I tell you. It's all lies.
Do you want the truth? Can you handle it?
Success on a monetary scale is...
Wait for it...
Wait for it...
Complete F!$@!$!? BULL$?!&
It's unfulfilling. It leaves you wanting more. No goal is ever good enough. No accomplishment ever satisfying. You always feel this unsettled collective of knots in your stomach in the moments following your latest achievement.
It's why people give each other awards. Trying to make the feeling of reaching the goal last just a teeny bit longer by... celebrating it to the world. "Yay!! I was awesome for a moment..."
"...and now I'm a loser again."
This baffles my little analytical mind beyond belief. We have blindly followed this code for millennia. It's truly absurd.
Oh, and if you figure out that it's all a giant pile of cow manure and you want to give your money to those in need (which brings you happiness) guess what people do...!!!? They start warning you that you're being ill-advised with your funds!!!!! So basically inner peace rates a '0' on the sliding scale of 'will the world approve of my success'?
Enough ranting... What do we do about this?
Go where the love is. When I say love I mean full acceptance, because love without this is actually the antithesis of love altogether.
"Happiness is loving coming FROM you." - don Miguel Ruiz
Think about how you love your pet. Think about how happy you are to love on your little puppy or kitty cat. That is what happiness feels like. That's because you fully accept your dog is a dog. You aren't loving him "but only when we he acts more like a cat"...!?!?? That's nuts. If you wanted a cat you would of gotten a cat... Right?!
My point is, in life we are so 'conditioned' to exist in a 'conditional' world. We rarely ever step back and say, "Screw you society! Screw your conditional acceptance of me. I am who I am." So the curse perpetuates.
I say, "Do you. Ask yourself... Really ask yourself... Search into your very soul and ask, "Am I spending every day doing what I want to be doing? Do I love what I do outside of the craziness that comes with it? Or is this about a paycheck? Will I wake up in 20 years and wonder where my life went." Do this for yourself (and feel free to comment below) and do it for the world."
"Be the change you want to see in the world." - Mahatma Ghandi
Success is no more knots in my stomach.
Success is inner peace.
Success is no more wondering what people will think.
Success is full acceptance of me; of what I think.
Success is no more guilt.
Success is knowing I don't owe anything to anyone, but to love them.
Success is freedom from all fear.
Success is true joy which only comes from within me.
Tell me what you think 'Success' is and comment (if you'd like) on whether you feel you were taught this or if you feel society has played a part in your making decisions that don't truly make you happy. And, if you're happy definitely comment and tell the rest of us what to do!! :-)
My heart goes out to Paul's daughter and his family. I did not know him, but when someone dies even through a few degrees of separation there is a sense of a connection and certainly a feeling of loss.
I'm writing today because of my recent personal experience during hypnosis and because of the new sense of security I've found having read Dr. Brian Weiss' first four books, Many Lives Many Masters, Through Time into Healing, Only Love is Real and Messages from the Masters.
Logic, science and rationale tell us when we die that that is the end. There is no more. Just one more life bleated out. Remembered today. Forgotten tomorrow. Throw a tombstone on it and call it a day.
Interestingly enough MY logic won't allow me to believe this. My personal experience and acute self-awareness in times of great need tell me this can't be all there is. Yes, in my darkest hours, the overwhelming sense of there being... something more has save me, has even kept me alive.
See, logic has never held me in loving arms. Science has never offered me a shoulder to lean on. And rationale has yet to caringly wipe a grieving tear from my eye. So call it delusion. Call it human ego. Call it whatever fits into your personal belief system, but I believe in something greater. And if I spend my entire life believing in something that doesn't exist at least I lived a happy life (doing it myyyyyyyy way - Frank Sinatra).
Those who believe or "know" there is no after life, often times, live in great fear of their own end. When will it come? How will it happen? Will I know I'm about to die? I know no fear of death because I believe I am a soul, a beautiful being of light and in my spirit form I am forever eternal, immortal for all of time. This is a great solace for my earthly life and I can live fuller and freer without the weight of my impending doom.
My beliefs have evolved from previous guilt-ridden, fear-stricken thought systems to my present state of all-encompassing love. I believe, like when light is present darkness flees, where love is present fear cannot be.
I see my life very simply. It's a lesson. I have this life to learn one very important lesson. I have this life to first ascertain what that lesson is and then it is my duty (to myself) to do my utmost to learn that lesson while hurting as few of my fellow humans as possible along the way.
I was raised very conservative Christian, but not to be Christ-like. I saw hypocrisy in all of the lives of those who thought it their life-mission to show me how evil I was and how I needed to be fixed. Ironically, those who sought to 'fix' me never tried the only thing that could. Love. I was not accepted for who I was, I was taught when I'm good enough than I'll be loved. Well, I've since accepted that I will never be good enough... I will never be good enough to receive the projection of acceptance and therefore condition-based love, and... THAT IS PERFECTLY FINE WITH ME.
Now I love myself for who I am. Now I have compassion for those who cannot see themselves as deserving of love because they grew up as I, being judged and told they "aren't good enough". Now I don't believe in a judgmental angry God who is out to get me. Now I believe that God is love and love is in all of us so we must be one. We must be the same. We must be equal. I am not right and you wrong. Nor are you right and I am wrong. WE JUST ARE... And we are good enough just the way we are.
So now I believe that we are here to learn and to love and to learn to love. Real love. True love. Which mean acceptance; love with no conditions. And, then, I believe we return to spirit form and we keep learning and loving.
I love macaroni and cheese, I love the ocean and I love believing in Something Greater than Myself. It's a preference and that is all. I hope this finds you well and in no way makes you feel attacked or unloved. The intent is merely to share light and full acceptance of all.